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In-Laws interference in marriage

Father in law or mother in law is intruding in your marriage if this is how you feel then you are losing your own space. Are they interfering or you letting them interfere in your life. If your marriage is strong & the couple is happy in their relationship then in-laws are not a liability or responsibility rather they become a support system. Frustration keeps mounting over the years of marriage if not taken care of maintaining peace with in-laws.

As per our marriage counselling clinical study of thousands of marital cases, Some of the common Issues where you feel in-laws may be interfering are :

For Wife from her husband’s family :

  • Where are you going ?
  • What time will you be back ?
  • What are you wearing, you should dress up properly?
  • Why are going again ?
  • What are doing, why you can’t be more responsible ?
  • Why are you on the phone/chat all the time ?
  • Who is sending you these messages ?
  • When you coming to us ? even last time you went to your mothers home.
  • Are you ok ? Did you had fight ?
  • Why you don’t look happy ?
  • Why he is not happy ?

 

For Husband from wifes family :

  • Why is she sick all the time ?
  • Why are you not spending time with her ?
  • When are you coming to us ?
  • Why are you stopping her to buy her clothes.
  • You should stop drinking.
  • You need to settle your life.
  • Why are you not trusting your wife ?
  • Why do you come so late from office ?

Although above issues may not be the in-law issue you personally have to deal with, it reflects one of the many ways interference by in-laws can bring tension to a marriage. Strategies for addressing interference from outsiders, however, remain the same.

 

But if you feel you are better alone then there must be the reason about it from the past incidents you had with in-laws. In that case, meet a Counselor & find out how you both can bring in happiness at home.

2 Comments

  1. Akshay

    Please let me know the procedure, and fee for individual marriage/personal/family counselling. in Delhi
    I have issues with parents of my wife. They are good people but they are telling my wife to get property from my parents in which they live. It’s not my property, We moved in this house when i was 11 years old, since then i have been living in this house but my in-laws want share of the property so i can buy a flat in Noida where me & my wife should move. I don’t want to leave my parents, plus i don’t want any share in my parents property as I am only 32 & working as Sr Manager in MNC. I make 6 times pay package of my wife & we live comfortably & hopefully i can buy a house on my own after my appraisal in next year. I have done my Engineering form IIT & my parents had supported me to get a good education. I am so frustrated with these games & fights we are having. Can you please give me appointment in Delhi counselling center for next Monday. Call me @ #########

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  2. Arpita Bhardwaj

    I am not able to understand my in laws what they want or do they love me or my husband they treat very cruel to us. Please Suggest. my ph # ##########

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