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Case study: Marriage is bliss that’s what others think but when you come home & are scared what if I speak & she will blast her volume on the high pitch & When wife’s voice sounds like sharp needles in ears, It’s time you have to see a counselor. You think her voice is irritating you, but she thinks you are not listening. Get help.

Case study: This is a case study only of a case during a marriage counseling session of a couple in marriage counseling by a counselor: Any names & locations are not disclosed. All case studies are written only with permission of the client on the condition of not disclosing real names.

Case study: Can you leave your mother alone? No, but what if your wife doesn’t want your mother to visit her at your house because sometimes in her last visit both had created a scenario where you also felt this would lead to separation but who is separating from who & for what? You have kids, will you not want to visit when your kids get married & live separately? That’s what your mother might be going through.

All said & done but what about the wife. She is trying to make the house or build a home of her own & now she doesn’t want someone to order why this should be done a certain way. Wife is just trying to make a space for identity & creating her own house.

Case study: This is a case study only of a case during a marriage counseling session of a couple in marriage counseling by a counselor : Any names & locations are not disclosed. All case studies are written only with permission of the client on the condition of not disclosing real names.

This week’s particular case: Husband called for counseling & said his Wife is addicted to serials which are brainwashing her how to play games in relationships.

Wife is addicted to Tv soaps & picking up only negative roles from serials, & what to do with his mother.

Sounds good may be picked up some cultural sings, somewhat husband was frustrated with why his wife is calling his mum saas sass saasji etc. Husband felt bad instead of calling his mother as mom mum maaji mataji she is calling saas. It doesn’t end there she starts explaining why the maid kept by his wife is hated by sass.

His wife who works in MNC hired maid leaves home at 8 am and comes back at 9 pm.

How her maid works or behaves with his mother is not the responsibility of his wife. Wife screamed: Your mom doesn’t like what I do. She is acting like in that serial **** like sasu maa ****.

Husband realized so far: TV is only entertainment for her wife (watches when she can). There are so many other challenges needs to be discussed between his mother & his wife where he needs to be open receptive without being judgmental.

 

Case study: This is a case study only of a case during a marriage counseling session of a couple in marriage counseling by a counselor: Any names & locations are not disclosed. All case studies are written only with permission of the client on the condition of not disclosing real names.

Case Study: Marriage counselor explains to the wife who just found out her husband had been keeping a second wife in Chandigarh. Besides, the wife who he legally married he had three children from the first wife. For 21 years he had been up & down MumbaiChandigarh – Delhi for his business work. Delhi was used by him only for being alone away from everything. Husband had a luxury apartment to relax in Delhi to be by himself. In Mumbai, he had a wife whom he didn’t legally married but married her by their ritual privately.

He had been keeping everyone happy by being the right provider & being with the family he is in the city. Husband had his mind set on keeping his little secret to himself but one day his son just landed in his Delhi apartment where he found pictures of his first family etc. it was devastating at first for all. But due to his two daughters just married to influential families, all families decided to keep it a secret & overcome the betrayal part. Husband had his reasons to have a second family because the first wife was very argumentative & they had stopped talking to each other. He had left home for good for Mumbai but met this second wife who found his support to overcome a divorce she had filed with her husband before the divorce. She supported him to stand his business in Mumbai with her money & skills so well that he grew in business as a successful entrepreneur & today all live a lavish lifestyle including all kids from the same business which was initiated by the second wife but taken to new heights by Husband. As per husband he never wanted to hurt the emotions of the first wife, so he had left them abandoned them but kept sending money without keeping in touch with them for nine years. But during nine years he had three children from the second wife in Mumbai to whom he finds as moral support and a reason to live & do something in life.

The reason he came for counseling because he had plans to leave everything & join a monastery to a spiritual path with a guru (as per his statement), but somewhere his family saw that there is something they should do to help him to live his real life with whom he wants to live. Any of the family didn’t have him as they wanted him to be with them & they always felt missing something but loved him for he is for whatever he is for whatever moments he is with them.

Points to note : everyone loves husband, He actually cared financially, emotionally, physically for everyone in his ex or present wife. His both families & both wives love him immensely. Both wives want him to be happy with another wife because he has given enough love to what they ever wanted from a man in their life.

 

This is a case study only: Any names & locations are not disclosed. All case studies are written only with permission of the client on the condition of not disclosing real names.